This is an almost daily question from my husband. Considering how busy I am, I sometimes think "Can't you look around and tell?" Then I realized that maybe it wasn't so obvious. Like any mom, I am forced to multi-task, and I can, but I personally work best when I can focus on one thing at a time. So, if my big accomplishment was looking for a job and vacuuming, and the kids have played since I vacuumed, the house doesn't look very different. Same for dusting and countless other "chores" I do during the day. By focusing on one chore at a time, the rest of the mess is still there, and it looks (and feels) like I haven't accomplished much of anything. No wonder he wonders what I do!
Luckily, a very wise friend told me that when she was a stay-at-home mom she would concentrate on one room at a time. That way she could see a difference, and felt like she accomplished something. She also shared that her husband didn't have the same expectations of her that she had. He just wanted a hot meal, a clean place to sit, and a happy wife. Whew! Here I was trying to have a clean, picture-perfect house, fix a hot meal, find a job, and keep the kids happy - I wasn't delivering on those, so there wasn't a happy wife!
I am so thankful that my husband's love for me isn't contingent on my efforts for perfection - I fall so short! I'm even more thankful that God's love for me isn't contingent on me achieving some semblance of perfection. I'd be hopelessly lost if that were the case! He took me "just as I am" and has been renovating ever since. I'll just have to start working like Him - room by room.
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